Over Christmas, I was visiting my sister and niece in Florida. Emma is three and a half and still very into the princess phase. While sitting in the back seat she asked me to read her a book, "Snow White" We weren't even finished with the first paragraph and there was a line that said "Snow White was waiting for her Prince Charming to come rescue her" I stopped immediately and shut the book. I turned to Emma and told her that she didn't have to wait for Prince Charming to rescue her she could do whatever she wanted to do and it could be done on her own!
Quickly I went into panic mode as I sometimes say things around my sister that I get in trouble in regards to how they raise Emma. But my sister chimmed in quickly that Emma could do whatever she wanted to do when she grew up and she didn't have to wait for anyone to rescue her. My sister listed off Mommy, doctor, lawyer, teacher, nurse, photographer, artist, and so on. My sister and I lead very different lives she works full time and has been married for 11 years. I am the single aunt that comes to visit but also I support myself full time as an artist.
Times have changed so much from when "Snow White" was originally written but it's so important that Emma knows she doesn't have to wait for anyone to make her dreams come true.
For the longest time I have wanted to write a book... It's been my dream, and the one thing that has stopped me is literally the fact that there is no "fairy tale ending" I kept saying I can't write a book because my story isn't complete. Which in some ways saying that what I told Emma was true. In the back of my head I felt the only way to write a story was to be resuced by prince charming.
What if I was the hero to my own story?
This time last year I was in a relationship with someone and well since I am obviously single it didn't work out. I kept thinking I would be happy or I could "fix" things to make us happy. I went through an unhappy period last year when we broke up. I found out he spent Valentine's Day with another girl that wasn't me...
This past year I have stayed single a bit by choice to give my self some space and learn to love myself. I have been more creative than ever and when I look back at the relationship I was much happier being out of it than in it. I have laughed harder and smiled more. I swear my wrinkles around my eyes have grown. But they are a symbol of me loving life than I really don't mind much.
So here I am a single girl on Valetnine's Day and I am happy. Loving yourself and putting yourself first is hard work but it's worth it. So until the right person comes along I will continue to travel and enjoy life because you shouldn't have to wait for anything or anyone to be happy.
I would love to know your thoughts. Single or Taken? Do you agree with Disney or are you a more modern thinker?